[Knowledge] Using a vibrator but no feeling? These points to know

Preface

In my exchanges with many people, I have found that many of my friends have a similar confusion: why do they seem to feel less pleasure than expected when using a vibrator?

In fact, most of these misunderstandings revolve around one central question: what sensations should be produced by using a vibrator?

Many people say that using a vibrator requires practice and slow exploration in order to find a way.

So, to what extent is it considered to be ‘getting the hang of it’?

Does it mean that once you have found the right way, you will be able to succeed immediately? This is where many people are confused.

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What should it feel like to use a vibrator?

Firstly we can start with how your body reacts, have you ever experienced one or more of these sensations while masturbating:

• Sour sensations
• A bloated feeling
• A slight tingling, crunchy feeling
• A sudden feeling of wanting to pee

You don't need to have experienced all four of these sensations, as long as you have one of them, it means you've taken a step in the right direction.

But in reality, many people can't find the G-spot or don't know the right way to use a vibrator, resulting in no obvious pleasure or stimulation, and then mistakenly think, ‘Am I using it wrong? Is it no reaction to the vibrator?

Take an example:

 A is new to vibrators, and the first time she used one, she didn't feel any pleasure, just a little swelling in her lower abdomen, and even a little bit like she was going to pee, which scared her to stop.

But in fact, this ‘urination’ is a normal reaction to the G-spot stimulation, is a precursor to pleasure.

And B began to feel sore, a bit like usual before the holidays that kind of vaguely dull, although not strong, but after a few attempts, she slowly experienced the changes in the body, and even on one occasion suddenly had a kind of ‘overdrive’ feeling, that is, the result of the gradual strengthening of the feeling of paresthesia.

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What to do if you don't feel it?

If you're using a vibrator and you're not feeling any of these four sensations, don't get discouraged.

This means you need to explore a little more, and you can try a few things:

• Increasing or decreasing the intensity of the vibration
• Changing the angle of use or depth of entry- Adjust the frequency of vibration
• Try other styles of vibrators with different functions.
• Use it with other types of masturbation equipment.

In short, the goal is to get your body to respond to stimulation first, and don't go for the ‘over-the-top’ orgasm right off the bat.

Even a little bit of numbness means you're on the right track.

At this stage, it is recommended that you do not aim for ‘orgasm’ or ‘pleasure’, but rather let your body begin to ‘feel’.

What do these sensations have to do with pleasure?

Many people will wonder, ‘I thought masturbation was about pleasure? How come you're talking about sensations like soreness, swelling and numbness?’

The answer is actually quite simple: these sensations are what the brain translates into pleasure.

The brain has a mechanism to convert various tactile signals coming from the body into pleasurable sensations.

So, any sensation that triggers pleasure in you, whether it's soreness, numbness, or bloating, could be the starting point for you to experience pleasure.

Take an example:

D says she didn't feel ‘good’, but she recalls a persistent tingling sensation extending from her lower body to her back, and even goosebumps.

This is how pleasure is being created. The brain in processing these body touch, sometimes will slowly convert it into pleasure, not necessarily an immediate impact, but a slow and prolonged enhancement.

What is the pleasure from a vibrator really like?

Maybe you have a lot of fantasies about the pleasure of using a vibrator before you really try it, such as thinking that it will be as intensely stimulating as described in novels, or as instantly satisfying as drinking a soda or reading a cool article.

But the reality may have thrown you for a loop - it's not intense pleasure right off the bat, but an indescribably subtle sensation.

Especially for newbies, when you first start using a vibrator, the sensation may be very vague, like a faint, grasping emotion, and the more you focus on feeling it, the harder it is to experience that pleasure instead.

This is because the brain's conversion mechanism has not yet been fully established, and has not yet found the rhythm of ‘how to turn this touch into pleasure’.

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How to use a vibrator more effectively?

It is recommended that you try to relax yourself completely when using a vibrator. You can play an adult film, follow the plot and get into the mood, don't care too much about the body's reaction, so it is easier to engage the brain and help transform the sensation.

If it is difficult to experience an orgasm with a vibrator alone, you can pair it with an external vibrator for a ‘1+1’ combination.

This way of internal and external stimulation at the same time makes it easier for many people to find sensation and reach orgasm.

Summary

Overall, if you can feel one or more of acidity, bloating, urination, or tingling when using a vibrator, you're in the zone.

Although these sensations may not sound like ‘pleasure’, they are actually processed by the brain to form what we understand as ‘pleasure’.

That is to say, the pleasure brought by the vibrator is not a sudden stimulation, but the body's subtle sensations are gradually amplified by the brain results.

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Many people feel that they ‘do not feel’, in fact, just do not realise that these feelings are already a prelude to pleasure, do not be in a hurry to deny yourself, as long as the body has a reaction, it means that you are on the right road to pleasure.

Keep exploring, keep practising, and trust yourself to find the most suitable rhythm and method.

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