Can girls without sexual experience use sex toys?

Preface

Many girls feel a little shy when they first see sex toys on our Bestvibe website, in short videos, or in shopping malls, and may even doubt themselves: ‘I've never been in a relationship and have no sexual experience. Is it too early for me to use this?’

In reality, sex toys are like tools for exploring your body.

Their purpose is to help you understand yourself better, and you can confidently try them regardless of whether you have sexual experience or not.

Let’s discuss why women without sexual experience should consider using sex toys, along with some tips for selecting and using them.

Using sex toys for the first time during sexual activity

Many people often say:

• If you have no sexual experience, don't touch sex toys; they will stretch your vagina.
• Using sex toys will make you addicted, and you'll only want machines in the future.
• Using them makes you impure; who would want you then?

However, according to a 2022 report by Japanese company TENGA, a global survey of women aged 18–29 revealed:

47% of women with no sexual experience have used or purchased sex toys, and 82% of them stated that this helped them understand their bodies better.

They did not become indifferent or lose interest in normal sexual intercourse because of using sex toys.

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Three reasons why women with no sexual experience should try sex toys

Get to know your body and reduce future pain

A course at University College London (UCL) points out that the distribution of nerves in the female vagina and vulva varies greatly.

Some women are sensitive in the clitoris, while others are sensitive in the vaginal wall.

If you can use sex toys to discover your own sensitive spots in the least stressful, most relaxed environment, you’ll be better able to avoid pain and dryness caused by unfamiliarity or tension when engaging in intimate activities with a partner.

Help alleviate psychological fear

For many women, the root cause of fear during first-time sexual intercourse isn’t pain, but rather “not knowing what it feels like at all.”

American sex therapist Emily Morse has shared that 70% of first-time pain is related to psychological tension and feeling overwhelmed.

Sex toys allow you to control the pace and intensity, starting gently and gradually adapting, which naturally reduces fear in the future.

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Low risk

Sex toys from reputable brands are often made of medical-grade silicone or TPE, which are soft enough to stretch freely and much safer than you might think.

As long as you choose the right size and use lubricant, the vagina will not become loose, and even for a first-time user, there is almost no risk of redness or injury.

How should a novice female choose the most suitable sex toy for her first time?

Types

• If you only want external stimulation, you can try a mini vibrator first.
• If you want to try more, you can buy a suction head + soft sleeve combination, which allows you to explore gradually from the outside to the inside.

Material considerations

Medical-grade silicone is the best choice, followed by TPE, and then hard ABS.

Size and vibration frequency are crucial

Beginners should avoid going for larger sizes.

A diameter of 2–2.5 cm and a length of 8–10 cm are sufficient for a comfortable experience without being too intense.

A vibration frequency of 3,000–6,000 RPM is ideal—satisfying without being too strong.

Proper cleaning is essential

Wash with warm water and neutral soap, dry thoroughly, and store in a dedicated storage bag to prevent bacterial growth.

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5 questions you might want to ask about sex toys

Will it break the hymen?

There is approximately 1-2 cm of space between the vaginal opening and the hymen, so as long as you move gently, it will not come into direct contact with it.

Will using sex toys make me lose interest in real people?

No.

The warmth, scent, and interaction of a real person cannot be replaced by a machine.

Sex toys are like a little dessert after a meal; they do not replace the main course.

Is it addictive?

Research from New York University shows that people gradually become desensitised to repeated stimulation and do not become more dependent over time.

Can they be used during menstruation?

It is best to avoid it. During those days, the body is more sensitive and has weaker immunity, making infection more likely.

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What should you do the first time you use a sex toy?

Start by taking a warm bath to relax your body, then apply an adequate amount of water-based lubricant.

Follow the rhythm of ‘circle → point → shallow → deep,’ exploring slowly from the outside in.

After orgasm, do not remove it immediately; wait until the uterus has contracted before gently rotating and removing it.

Finally

sex toys can help you better understand your body, reduce future awkwardness, and allow you to be more relaxed and enjoy yourself when you meet the right person.

After all, your own pleasure and comfort are worth taking the time to nurture.

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